"Nice Service, Father"
I grew up in a tradition that looked askance at anything remotely "planned". People in my childhood church would have found "reading prayers from a book" on a par with summarily inviting the Spirit to leave the building. Worship was supposed to be spontaneous, free-flowing and emotionally enthralling. A formal structure in that tradition was tantamount to blasphemy. In fact, some of the preachers I listened to as a child would have had me believe that there was the New Testament Church of Acts...and then 1900 years of people following "the ways of man"...before the Spirit miraculously reappeared to several groups of seekers at the turn of the 20th century.
And yet...when I first walked into an Episcopal liturgy, I found that I was jumping into a river of tradition that had quenched spiritual thirsts for millennia. I discovered prayers that had been prayed by the church for centuries -- not because people were too lazy to draft new ones, but because there was a timelessness in the language that invited worshipers to step out of their current distractions and focus on God's big picture of eternity. I was amazed at the direct references from Scripture, the allusions to Scripture and the economy of words that carried such an immense freight of meaning.
Three pastoral offices, the liturgies that assist us in marking the major moments of our lives -- baptisms, marriages and deaths -- are marvels of liturgical theology at its finest.
At the thanksgiving over the water at baptisms, the whole of salvation history is recounted... from the Brooding Spirit over the waters of chaos at creation, to the descending Spirit upon our Lord Jesus, through to our own baptisms, which mark our "burial" with Christ in his death and our resurrection to new life.
My favorite part of the marriage liturgy is the prayer over the newly married couple in which I ask God (in the words of the Church and on behalf of the Church) to, "...Defend them from every enemy. Lead them into all peace." The Church then invokes God's presence so that the couple's love will be, "a seal upon their hearts, a mantle about their shoulders, and a crown upon their foreheads." And finally we pray that God will, "Bless them in their work and in their companionship, in their sleeping and in their waking, in their joys and in their sorrows; in their life and in their death..."
At the time of death, the prayers of the Church give voice to our sadness and proclaim to us the hope of resurrection. But the hope proclaimed is not a happily ever after, "in the sweet bye and bye" sort -- it is a realistic hope...grounded in an awareness that death is a part of the human condition. We all go down to the grave, but we stare death in the face and make our song, "Alleluia. Alleluia. Alleluia."
As a priest, I am privileged to pray these words of the Church at baptisms, marriages and funerals. They are powerful words. They are precise words. These words hover over us with unbearable lightness. They pierce our souls with the heaviness of God's glory. They are words aimed at inviting the congregation to pause in these highly charged moments and remember that we are gathered as a
praying community in the presence of God.
My job as a priest is to be as present as I can to the words the Church has given me to say...and to pray them like I mean them. Praying them like I mean them isn't a difficult or onerous task...I do mean them! With every fiber of my being!
The aim of these liturgies is not to produce a "nice service". These liturgies compel us to remember that all we have and all we are -- from birth to rebirth in Christ to death and beyond -- is a gift from the God who created us and calls each of us by name.